jimmiepop's Journal, 06 Aug 21

Sun's out. Let's go!! 

👍🏾🙌🏾 

Oh Jimmie, someday you’ll find your perfect gal, she’s out there!! Don’t judge women by your past! Plus, DO NOT JUDGE A WOMAN BY THE COVER, how horrible that can be, it is the INSIDE that counts, not the OUTSIDE!! MamaShrew talking, don’t take advice from Snoop!🙃 Have a Fantastic Friday and Let’s Go!👍 

Great quote.  

@shrew With respect, I am not looking for my"perfect woman" or any similar nonsense. And I count myself a good judge of character regardless of gender, including my own. Snoop is spot on. I quote wisdom where I find it. Peace.  

I love that snoop and martha stewart are best buds. pun intended.  

Nice message from Snoop.  

Jimmie I like you!!! Snoop was saying almost the same as I. Still you deserve good things in life for you’re always improving yourself!👍☀️ 

@kat It's genius. Capitalism.  

Appreciate you, Shrew.  

Yep. And a family man married to the mother of his kids and HS sweetheart for 25; coached kids peewee football.  

I'm a horrible judge of character, I think- so I am thankful to get it right sometimes. But I like Snoop and his quote. It's true. One of the best things about marriage besides unlimited sex is that someone always has your back. Even if I disagreed privately- I would always back my spouse. Anyhow- One time I brought my friend with me to this guy's house and she was pretty overweight and we were smoking pot and she tried to be cool and ask him if he had any Snoop and he thought she said soup and started reading what cans of soup he had. What a nice host! I think of that occasionally and laugh. He was just going with it- ready to make soup for my fat friend and me. (who was also fat) Congrats on your super close to targetness! 

@DP. In fuckin tears. Literally. Thanks! I needed that. It's been one of those days. And you're right! Good host. Smoked you up and fed you soup!  

I got chicken noodle... LMAO. Brian Harrison-I'll never forget him. He was the best. :) I never brought the girl with me again.  

PS - I see so many couples, married and not, who DO NOT display the solidarity you describe. I hear women in particular publicly shit talk their men all the time right in front of them as if they are not there. Often it is presented in jest. So plausible deniability. I'm like, woman, you picked his ass! To me, this behavior is relationship cancer. Those couples are done or might as well be. Point is - IMHO if you've got that real shit with your man, it is exceptional! Don't forget! 

You got greedy with that soup and weed!  

Speakin' of Snoop. I met Snoop b4 he became famous. He actually told us, while partying w/us: He supplied some of the drinks, food, & etc., that he was going to be famous. He would blast his music, that wasn't popular yet, while he partied w/us. There are some neighbors around me that went to school w/Snoop. I have always loved the SoCal Harbor Area here near Long Beach where I was born too like Mr. Snoop. (*_*) 

Loved DP's story!!! 🤣 And great advice from Snoop! You can't judge a book by its cover to quote an old cliche! But its so true and sure who doesn't want excitement and passion! But at the end of your life when you're old, wrinkly and a shell of your former self then what really matters is the friendship and commitment that's weathered life's storms. Although my input is unsolicited (I apologize, because I just can't help myself!) my secret to marriage and people in general is to accept that no one's perfect. There's things I dislike and like about myself. Same with my spouse. The question is what can I live with? What I live by is pretty simple...I have to accept my weakness, and other people's too. Lots of forgiveness, and grace! I can't change some things about myself or my spouse so I choose to love and accept myself and him as we are bit still try to be a better person and focus on what I can change. I think one of the biggest challenges is communication and often fights start over misunderstandings. Some people can't read between the lines or see another's struggle enough to look past their actions or words. Other times people draw a line and just aren't willing to budge, or they can't or won't change. But, it always comes back to that question...what things do I choose to allow in my life, or not? I think a key is not to try to change your potential spouse. Most likely they won't be able to or won't be willing to. If you can't accept that, then don't marry them! Can I just blame this word vomit on my mama Bear instincts? Lol!!! Great topic JimmiePop! Go get it!!!  

@bear. I think that you are passionate about the subject because you have put in the work to build a solid relationship with your man. And I wish you guys the best right now. I agree 100% that acceptance is key. IMHO in order to accept others warts and all, one has to be able to accept oneself warts and all. Most of us never put in that work. I didn't even realize that it was a thing until pretty recently! Another observation I have is that if you put the relationship first, make it a priority, it's health a priority, that can be pretty powerful too. When you find yourself in the heat of battle and realize that you care more about your partner, their well-being, your thing together, than whatever point you are trying to win in the fight, IME that can be game changing.  

Thanks J Pop! This is my 2nd marriage. We grow and we learn! I guess that's a big part of it too! We get back up and keep pressing on!